Yesterday's coaching call with Karen was again a fruitful one. The key to setting fulfilled goals or self-discovery exercises is to strike out to be in "Peak State Of Mind".
When we are at the Peak State, our mind becomes resourceful and the high intensity with emotions will get attached to the goals we listed or the discovery we explore within ourselves.
Karen recommended the Rule of 20:
1) List down 20 of your greatest strengths and talents (asking friends to tell you about your strength is even more powerful as something that come easy to us might be difficult to someone else)
2) List down 20 of your greatest achievements (this can be developing yourself, overcoming challenges)
3) Follow by attaching 1-2 sentences describing what it means to achieve your greatest accomplishments (eg. "When I put my mind into it, nothing's going to stop me")
4)20 Things you Love To Do (Passion)
5) Perform research to find out skills that could be use in a specific dream job from http://online.onetcenter.org/
6) Go to book store to find out what's the 20 most fastest growing career and review couple of books on career discovery (Daisy wheel) from the author of "What Color Is Your Parachute?" with the objective to finding a career that you enjoy
This is where the Passion, crossed with strengths/talents and accomplishment
These are the 6 steps that would help me designed my ideal career and hope it does for you too.
Cheers,
Kian
Saturday, October 23, 2010
Friday, October 22, 2010
The Funeral And A Letter To A Friend
You probably had hear this from someone or read it somewhere.
I did but it never struck me to try it. Ben and I was sitting
at the Irish Bank last Wednesday and we were talking about life
purpose.
Yeah... what a cheesy topic? But, Ben had been coached by a
carreer coach for a while now. He shared with me what his career
coach shared with him that had make a difference in his life.
A more focus and clearer picture of his life purpose and goal.
That's the "Funeral Test" and "A Letter To A Friend"
Forget about techniques or tactics, but focus on "Who I am?"
Imagine attending a Funeral of your own and what do you want you
wife, families, friends and collegues say about you at your Funeral.
After writing as detail as possible you'll find out perhaps what
holding you back and give yourself a chance to work back on why
you're born into this world.
The second test what a shorter term life purpose. Ben knows his
short term life purpose, which is to be a public lawyer. The concept
of "A Letter To A Friend" is writing out now as if it was 1-3 years
in the future, describing in absolute details of what you and I have
accomplished that make lifes so great and so fulfilled.
and of course... then we can work backward.
While these reverse re-engineering tests sounds cheesy.... I know
they work because in 2006, I wrote a goal to becoming an Advance
Communicator Bronze and at that time that seems to be way beyond
my capabilities.
But in 2008 (I believe), I found that same piece of paper filled with
dusk and realized I have already achieved that. I remembered my tears
started to drip of my cheek.
I'm going to do these 2 test right after my coaching call with Karen.
You'll find the above helpful.
Cheers,
Kian
I did but it never struck me to try it. Ben and I was sitting
at the Irish Bank last Wednesday and we were talking about life
purpose.
Yeah... what a cheesy topic? But, Ben had been coached by a
carreer coach for a while now. He shared with me what his career
coach shared with him that had make a difference in his life.
A more focus and clearer picture of his life purpose and goal.
That's the "Funeral Test" and "A Letter To A Friend"
Forget about techniques or tactics, but focus on "Who I am?"
Imagine attending a Funeral of your own and what do you want you
wife, families, friends and collegues say about you at your Funeral.
After writing as detail as possible you'll find out perhaps what
holding you back and give yourself a chance to work back on why
you're born into this world.
The second test what a shorter term life purpose. Ben knows his
short term life purpose, which is to be a public lawyer. The concept
of "A Letter To A Friend" is writing out now as if it was 1-3 years
in the future, describing in absolute details of what you and I have
accomplished that make lifes so great and so fulfilled.
and of course... then we can work backward.
While these reverse re-engineering tests sounds cheesy.... I know
they work because in 2006, I wrote a goal to becoming an Advance
Communicator Bronze and at that time that seems to be way beyond
my capabilities.
But in 2008 (I believe), I found that same piece of paper filled with
dusk and realized I have already achieved that. I remembered my tears
started to drip of my cheek.
I'm going to do these 2 test right after my coaching call with Karen.
You'll find the above helpful.
Cheers,
Kian
Social Skills That Build Instant Rapport
I just can't say it enough... The best way to
succeed in building social skill is to learn from
"THE MASTERS"
... men and women whose mind-blowing success seems
NATURAL and EFFORTLESS are because they practice
the social socials every single time and the skills
that seems unnatural and tough became natural and
effortless.
It's about doing something conciously until it seeps
into our subconcious.
That's why I'm VERY excited to share a MAJOR
announcement with you today... that I'm going to test
this out myself.
This is what I'm going to do. This might be a life
changing experience for me and I'm going to make it
happen no matter what. And most importantly, I want
you to join me.
Here I listed down 7 of the total 21 powerful and proven
social skills that build instant rapport regardless of
whether you're in a networking event or having a small
talk one on one with stranger.
Obviously, I don't make up these skills. I study,
learned and research these skills from the MASTERS of
COMMUNICATION like Leil Lowndes, Debra Fine, Dale Carnegie,
Jill Spiegel, and many others.
The following 7 social skills that I'm focusing on
this week are:
1) "Hello, Old Friend" - assuming a new person you are
meeting as old friends
2) Pre use the word "We", "Us" and "Our" replacing "You",
"Your" or "I" to create instant connection
3) Listen and mimick the words being used by the person,
whom we are talking to. (eg. if she used the word "chalet"
instead of "cabin"... then use the words when responding to
her)
4) When meeting someone for the very first time and if
received a cold hand shake, perhaps we can try to say "I don't
quite get it, can we try again" while extending our hand.
5) Use right eyes to gaze deep into the right eye of the person
who we are talking to. That's call soul gazing.
6) When someone is telling a story.... listen attentively by
twisting our head slightly to the left to indicate interest.
7) Create body contact, by doing "high five". And one of the best
way is lifting our right/left hand and look away from the person
and awaits the clap.
I'll continue the remaining 14 socials which I would practice
conciously for the next 90 days and share with you the impact
of doing that.
If you are reading this now, then... that's an indication that
perhaps we should be doing this together.
Have fun!!
Cheers,
Kian
succeed in building social skill is to learn from
"THE MASTERS"
... men and women whose mind-blowing success seems
NATURAL and EFFORTLESS are because they practice
the social socials every single time and the skills
that seems unnatural and tough became natural and
effortless.
It's about doing something conciously until it seeps
into our subconcious.
That's why I'm VERY excited to share a MAJOR
announcement with you today... that I'm going to test
this out myself.
This is what I'm going to do. This might be a life
changing experience for me and I'm going to make it
happen no matter what. And most importantly, I want
you to join me.
Here I listed down 7 of the total 21 powerful and proven
social skills that build instant rapport regardless of
whether you're in a networking event or having a small
talk one on one with stranger.
Obviously, I don't make up these skills. I study,
learned and research these skills from the MASTERS of
COMMUNICATION like Leil Lowndes, Debra Fine, Dale Carnegie,
Jill Spiegel, and many others.
The following 7 social skills that I'm focusing on
this week are:
1) "Hello, Old Friend" - assuming a new person you are
meeting as old friends
2) Pre use the word "We", "Us" and "Our" replacing "You",
"Your" or "I" to create instant connection
3) Listen and mimick the words being used by the person,
whom we are talking to. (eg. if she used the word "chalet"
instead of "cabin"... then use the words when responding to
her)
4) When meeting someone for the very first time and if
received a cold hand shake, perhaps we can try to say "I don't
quite get it, can we try again" while extending our hand.
5) Use right eyes to gaze deep into the right eye of the person
who we are talking to. That's call soul gazing.
6) When someone is telling a story.... listen attentively by
twisting our head slightly to the left to indicate interest.
7) Create body contact, by doing "high five". And one of the best
way is lifting our right/left hand and look away from the person
and awaits the clap.
I'll continue the remaining 14 socials which I would practice
conciously for the next 90 days and share with you the impact
of doing that.
If you are reading this now, then... that's an indication that
perhaps we should be doing this together.
Have fun!!
Cheers,
Kian
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Happiness Hypothesis
I was a backup speaker on October 20th at GGTM Club meeting. I received an e-mail requesting me to fill the spot of an absence speaker. My mind shouted to me "Kian, Never Turn Down Stage Time!!", a lesson I learned from Darren La Croix, the 2001 World Champion of Public Speaking.
And I came in the meeting and presented this:
Techniques applied are:
1) Bring audience into the scene (eg. if you were to sit beside my mum.....)
2) Let me message told by 3rd party or a "Guru" (eg. my mum gave me the message and I'm not the one giving the message, so audience would trust my mum's message)
3) Structure are similar to Craig Valentine speech for practice purpose only
4) Suspense build in at opening (eg. mentioning about 9:40 am on a Thursday morning, April 2008.... )
5) Ask metaphorical question (eg. If I were to ask you.... answer A and answer B, then...)
Improvement:
1)Walk in and out of the stage with confidence and do not hunge
2) Use the word "growth" or "grow" replacing "progress" (a word change might means a lot to different culture)
3) Control the energy level and tame the butterflies
4) To inject charisma, reduce the "smiley" face
5) Movement on stage and playing roles could be further imrpove (eg. when playing Alex.. .stay on right and when playing myself, stay on the left side of the room)
6) Pause to allow audience to either response or to allow audience to think
Cheers,
Kian
And I came in the meeting and presented this:
Techniques applied are:
1) Bring audience into the scene (eg. if you were to sit beside my mum.....)
2) Let me message told by 3rd party or a "Guru" (eg. my mum gave me the message and I'm not the one giving the message, so audience would trust my mum's message)
3) Structure are similar to Craig Valentine speech for practice purpose only
4) Suspense build in at opening (eg. mentioning about 9:40 am on a Thursday morning, April 2008.... )
5) Ask metaphorical question (eg. If I were to ask you.... answer A and answer B, then...)
Improvement:
1)Walk in and out of the stage with confidence and do not hunge
2) Use the word "growth" or "grow" replacing "progress" (a word change might means a lot to different culture)
3) Control the energy level and tame the butterflies
4) To inject charisma, reduce the "smiley" face
5) Movement on stage and playing roles could be further imrpove (eg. when playing Alex.. .stay on right and when playing myself, stay on the left side of the room)
6) Pause to allow audience to either response or to allow audience to think
Cheers,
Kian
Monday, October 11, 2010
Corporate Asian American Employee Network (CAAEN) Annual Event 2010
It was 7:45pm on a Friday night, October 8th 2010, 6 top executives and young professionals gathered at the Safeway auditorium at Pleasanton for the CAAEN 2010 Annual Event with this year's theme "Inspirational Ladership Affecting Positive Change".
It's a question and answer session with 6 senior executives from start-up companies to public listed entities. Several take-aways that I got from this meeting are as follows:
1) Use metaphors to illustrate your point
One of the executive who make every single point with a metaphor and it sticks in my mind so vividly. He definitely out performed the 5 other executives in the way he presented his answers.
2) Use the word "We" instead of "You"
One of the executives responded questions with many words using you should do that, you should do this, your manager should do this and that..... I found it rather annoying as it's a general human nature that we do not like to be directed.
So I improvised, that maybe if we use the word "We" should do this and that... it will create rapport with audiene.
3) Breath of knowledge
One executive probably over 50 years old who doesn't seem to be tech savvy... was talking about facebook and amazon kindle. I almost couldn't believe it!! But he make a good point of reading through Amazon Kindle, you'll have thousands of books in one location and you can browse through them quickily.
I recalled my Senior Business Leader (Judy Fong) once told me that we need to read in breath to widen our knowledge and not solely focus on one or two topic of interest. This will enable us to be able to blend in and converse with others in a social or networking setting.
My conclusion, I'm getting an Amazon Kindle and subscribing to Business Week and few others magazines.
While these are the top 3 learning points I inferred from the meeting, they obviously talked and discussed on various topics on innovation, communication, managing change and leadership.
Overall an good 2 hours seminars that went by like a flash of lights.
Cheers,
Kian
It's a question and answer session with 6 senior executives from start-up companies to public listed entities. Several take-aways that I got from this meeting are as follows:
1) Use metaphors to illustrate your point
One of the executive who make every single point with a metaphor and it sticks in my mind so vividly. He definitely out performed the 5 other executives in the way he presented his answers.
2) Use the word "We" instead of "You"
One of the executives responded questions with many words using you should do that, you should do this, your manager should do this and that..... I found it rather annoying as it's a general human nature that we do not like to be directed.
So I improvised, that maybe if we use the word "We" should do this and that... it will create rapport with audiene.
3) Breath of knowledge
One executive probably over 50 years old who doesn't seem to be tech savvy... was talking about facebook and amazon kindle. I almost couldn't believe it!! But he make a good point of reading through Amazon Kindle, you'll have thousands of books in one location and you can browse through them quickily.
I recalled my Senior Business Leader (Judy Fong) once told me that we need to read in breath to widen our knowledge and not solely focus on one or two topic of interest. This will enable us to be able to blend in and converse with others in a social or networking setting.
My conclusion, I'm getting an Amazon Kindle and subscribing to Business Week and few others magazines.
While these are the top 3 learning points I inferred from the meeting, they obviously talked and discussed on various topics on innovation, communication, managing change and leadership.
Overall an good 2 hours seminars that went by like a flash of lights.
Cheers,
Kian
Friday, October 8, 2010
Dreams Are Not For Sale
I recently researched couple of techniques of public speaking and find that Craig Valentine (1999 World Champion International Speech Contest Toastmasters) had a distinctive speaking skills that are easy to follow.
Here is one of his leadership speech:
The messages are even more powerful:
1) Dream Are Not For Sale
2) What getting your way between you and your dream is .... good
3) Are you too good to be great?
4) The enemy of great is good
Cheers,
Kian
Here is one of his leadership speech:
The messages are even more powerful:
1) Dream Are Not For Sale
2) What getting your way between you and your dream is .... good
3) Are you too good to be great?
4) The enemy of great is good
Cheers,
Kian
Thursday, October 7, 2010
Be The Best Of Yourself
At the Division E Humorous Speech Contest October 7, 2010, I went up and presented this:
[opening – stay at back of the stage, have friendly eyes and smile – take a deep breath]
If I were to ask you…… [paused - smile]
Have you ever try to impress … a giirrl?
Or…. A man? (deep voice).
I bet all of you will say… “Yes”
I don’t want to brag or anything… when I approach and talked to her for the very first time, she say…. (act proud…..paused)
“What A Loser” [hand pointing myself - paused]
It was 6:45 on a Thursday morning, I went up to the 7th floor
I grab my coffee cup strolled down to the kitchen.
At the kitchen sink
I felt (paused) it was warmed.
I noticed the air-conditioned was turned off.
the kitchen was dimly lit and….. (paused)
I look right and left and ……….there was no one in the office.
Suddenly, I heard [hand on ears] “Click”, “Click” x4 [increase volume].
Sound of sharp & pointy footstep approaching me.
The sound became louder and louder and it stopped.
I turned around (360’ turn) and I saw (paused – look at audience, look at Jess and look at audience & both hand shaking),
“It was Jessica!!” [smile facial]
I gazed right into her eyes……. [2 fingers]
And she looked back at mine [2 fingers]
Eye balls to eye balls….. [hand], like butterfly wings clapping against each other.
If you ever met Jessica in person, you’ll agree with me…..
“There is something about….. [hand up] high heels” (paused)
Finally believe there is…... (paused)
“Love At First Sight”
If I’m am Romeo in the office, Jessica is my Juliet. I never had a chance to talk to her because she worked in different department.
While I have many secret crushes on my female colleagues, she made it to my Top 5 “G-I-P” list………… “Girlfriend In Progress”
She walked closer and closer, right next to me and joining me at the kitchen sink washing her plates.
I was washing my cup and she was washing her plates.
I felt like were husband and wife playing with the dishes (paused & hand washing)
Her elbow accidentally touches mine, and (paused & hand on chest 3 times)
She activated my heart rate and my heart pounded so loudly. For that second, I was thinking (look up)…..
“Is she trying to seduce (slower) me….. in the kitchen (low tone)”
Suddenly a monstrous voice creeps [2 hands out 5] out of my brain, and says… “Kian!! (high volume & paused) Go for it! Go for the girl you always wanted”
With blush on my face, I tilted my head to Jessica and with my trembling voice, I say ….. (paused) “Do you want more soap?”
I was met with silence.
If you were there, you can see her eyes were telling me…… “What a Loser?”
She nodded her head, looks back and stormed away. She ended our one and only romantic experience.
The word “Loser” hovers in my brain for the rest of the day and weeks. I never made my second attempt to approach Jessica.
There is something I never tell you… I’m my mummy’s boy. “Mum! Mum! I’m giving up on Jessica. I think I have an inferiority complex syndrome.
My mum looked up at me with her big brown eyes and says…
“No, Kian… you don’t have inferiority complex syndrome…”
“You are inferior!” (she was kidding).
If you sit beside my mum, just a few minutes later in the black leather sofa, chocolate chip cookies baking behind the scene, you’ll heard her say something that will absolutely change your life.
I know it changed mine.
She say…. “Kian, if you cast a sight on a girl that you’re really interested in, disregard the fear of rejection and persistent until her heart melted. Go for it!! Give you best shot You Know You Have Make The Best Of Yourself!!
With my mum wisdom behind my head, I stormed into the office, confident, firm, bold and I want to show her the man I’m meant to be. I walk right into her cubicle, look into her eyes…. And say
(looks change to timid)
“Call me, urgent”
Kian: “Hello”
Jess: “Hi, this is Jessica”
Kian: “huh!!….. Jessica”
Jess: “Who is this? Is this Kian?”
Kian: [eyes look at left audience] “No, No….. Can you hold?”
[jump up and dance]
Kian: “Yes? [deep tone] Ohhh…..… Jes-si-ca…, Dinner on Saturday at 7pm?”
Kian: “Hold on, let me check my schedule”
[brush my hair, eye brow, adjust my tie & look right to the floor and Elvis Presley style]
Kian: “How about… (paused) 7:15pm?” Our first date went on superbly well.
Ladies and gentlemen,
My message is simple – “Make The Best Of Yourself”
Jessica is our goal, mission or dream in life.
When gazed at me and say “What A Loser”
- are judgment from friends, colleagues and families.
The inferiority complex that was developed within me are often self inflicted obstacles. Judgment comes when we tried to impress.
To stretch out and achieve your dream, embrace the judgment…. And Go for it….. because, when you do you know you have make the best of yourself.
--- End of Speech ---
Cheers,
Kian
[opening – stay at back of the stage, have friendly eyes and smile – take a deep breath]
If I were to ask you…… [paused - smile]
Have you ever try to impress … a giirrl?
Or…. A man? (deep voice).
I bet all of you will say… “Yes”
I don’t want to brag or anything… when I approach and talked to her for the very first time, she say…. (act proud…..paused)
“What A Loser” [hand pointing myself - paused]
It was 6:45 on a Thursday morning, I went up to the 7th floor
I grab my coffee cup strolled down to the kitchen.
At the kitchen sink
I felt (paused) it was warmed.
I noticed the air-conditioned was turned off.
the kitchen was dimly lit and….. (paused)
I look right and left and ……….there was no one in the office.
Suddenly, I heard [hand on ears] “Click”, “Click” x4 [increase volume].
Sound of sharp & pointy footstep approaching me.
The sound became louder and louder and it stopped.
I turned around (360’ turn) and I saw (paused – look at audience, look at Jess and look at audience & both hand shaking),
“It was Jessica!!” [smile facial]
I gazed right into her eyes……. [2 fingers]
And she looked back at mine [2 fingers]
Eye balls to eye balls….. [hand], like butterfly wings clapping against each other.
If you ever met Jessica in person, you’ll agree with me…..
“There is something about….. [hand up] high heels” (paused)
Finally believe there is…... (paused)
“Love At First Sight”
If I’m am Romeo in the office, Jessica is my Juliet. I never had a chance to talk to her because she worked in different department.
While I have many secret crushes on my female colleagues, she made it to my Top 5 “G-I-P” list………… “Girlfriend In Progress”
She walked closer and closer, right next to me and joining me at the kitchen sink washing her plates.
I was washing my cup and she was washing her plates.
I felt like were husband and wife playing with the dishes (paused & hand washing)
Her elbow accidentally touches mine, and (paused & hand on chest 3 times)
She activated my heart rate and my heart pounded so loudly. For that second, I was thinking (look up)…..
“Is she trying to seduce (slower) me….. in the kitchen (low tone)”
Suddenly a monstrous voice creeps [2 hands out 5] out of my brain, and says… “Kian!! (high volume & paused) Go for it! Go for the girl you always wanted”
With blush on my face, I tilted my head to Jessica and with my trembling voice, I say ….. (paused) “Do you want more soap?”
I was met with silence.
If you were there, you can see her eyes were telling me…… “What a Loser?”
She nodded her head, looks back and stormed away. She ended our one and only romantic experience.
The word “Loser” hovers in my brain for the rest of the day and weeks. I never made my second attempt to approach Jessica.
There is something I never tell you… I’m my mummy’s boy. “Mum! Mum! I’m giving up on Jessica. I think I have an inferiority complex syndrome.
My mum looked up at me with her big brown eyes and says…
“No, Kian… you don’t have inferiority complex syndrome…”
“You are inferior!” (she was kidding).
If you sit beside my mum, just a few minutes later in the black leather sofa, chocolate chip cookies baking behind the scene, you’ll heard her say something that will absolutely change your life.
I know it changed mine.
She say…. “Kian, if you cast a sight on a girl that you’re really interested in, disregard the fear of rejection and persistent until her heart melted. Go for it!! Give you best shot You Know You Have Make The Best Of Yourself!!
With my mum wisdom behind my head, I stormed into the office, confident, firm, bold and I want to show her the man I’m meant to be. I walk right into her cubicle, look into her eyes…. And say
(looks change to timid)
“Call me, urgent”
Kian: “Hello”
Jess: “Hi, this is Jessica”
Kian: “huh!!….. Jessica”
Jess: “Who is this? Is this Kian?”
Kian: [eyes look at left audience] “No, No….. Can you hold?”
[jump up and dance]
Kian: “Yes? [deep tone] Ohhh…..… Jes-si-ca…, Dinner on Saturday at 7pm?”
Kian: “Hold on, let me check my schedule”
[brush my hair, eye brow, adjust my tie & look right to the floor and Elvis Presley style]
Kian: “How about… (paused) 7:15pm?” Our first date went on superbly well.
Ladies and gentlemen,
My message is simple – “Make The Best Of Yourself”
Jessica is our goal, mission or dream in life.
When gazed at me and say “What A Loser”
- are judgment from friends, colleagues and families.
The inferiority complex that was developed within me are often self inflicted obstacles. Judgment comes when we tried to impress.
To stretch out and achieve your dream, embrace the judgment…. And Go for it….. because, when you do you know you have make the best of yourself.
--- End of Speech ---
Cheers,
Kian
Take backs from Division Contest
I walked into the room of 60 people and presented my revised Contest Speech.
Result came out that I was not place but nevertheless, the lessons learned were massive.
Here are the key lessons:
1) End your speech with confidence (after giving the speech, the way I walked out of the speaking areas is important as the judge had not cast a vote yet. So, if I walked out and show sign of uncertainty and I missed something, that will give the judges a second thoughts)
2) Position the same person/furniture at the same spot
3) Perhaps... the topic on relationship (guys getting girls and girls getting guys) are too common topic and easy to build laughter). Use more original topic
4) Start with a premise or foundational phrase with less than 10 words and build story and humor around it
5) Enunciation and voice articulation/projection to the end of the room
My strengths are:
1) Open with question that build rapport
Original: "Have you ever try to impressed a girl?"
Revised: "If I were to ask you... have you ever try to impress a girl? or a man? I bet you'll say yes!"
2) Bring audience to the scene and use a different character to communicate the message instead of yourself to build creditability
Revised: If you were to sit next to my mum at the comfy black leather couch, with chocolate chip cookies baking behind the scene, you'll have heard her say something that changes your life. I know it changes mine. She says... "Kian, ......"
3) Use metaphorical items to convey your speech message
Jessica = Goal, Mission and Dream
"What a loser" = challenges, obstacles and judgment that separate us and our dream
I'll post my revised Contest speech in the next posting.
Cheers,
Kian
Result came out that I was not place but nevertheless, the lessons learned were massive.
Here are the key lessons:
1) End your speech with confidence (after giving the speech, the way I walked out of the speaking areas is important as the judge had not cast a vote yet. So, if I walked out and show sign of uncertainty and I missed something, that will give the judges a second thoughts)
2) Position the same person/furniture at the same spot
3) Perhaps... the topic on relationship (guys getting girls and girls getting guys) are too common topic and easy to build laughter). Use more original topic
4) Start with a premise or foundational phrase with less than 10 words and build story and humor around it
5) Enunciation and voice articulation/projection to the end of the room
My strengths are:
1) Open with question that build rapport
Original: "Have you ever try to impressed a girl?"
Revised: "If I were to ask you... have you ever try to impress a girl? or a man? I bet you'll say yes!"
2) Bring audience to the scene and use a different character to communicate the message instead of yourself to build creditability
Revised: If you were to sit next to my mum at the comfy black leather couch, with chocolate chip cookies baking behind the scene, you'll have heard her say something that changes your life. I know it changes mine. She says... "Kian, ......"
3) Use metaphorical items to convey your speech message
Jessica = Goal, Mission and Dream
"What a loser" = challenges, obstacles and judgment that separate us and our dream
I'll post my revised Contest speech in the next posting.
Cheers,
Kian
Sunday, October 3, 2010
It's on YouTube
My friend recorded my speech and posted on YouTube:
Another learning - there was more chuckle here in front of 4 friends, than the room of 7 the last time I presented. So.... it's not the people.. it's me!!
Here I realized I'm more conversational because it's less intimidating.
Kian
Another learning - there was more chuckle here in front of 4 friends, than the room of 7 the last time I presented. So.... it's not the people.. it's me!!
Here I realized I'm more conversational because it's less intimidating.
Kian
Learning From Rehearsing My Contest Speech
It was 6:45am on a Tuesday morning, I walked into a room of 5 audiences, few of them were introducing themselves, and the room was still dimly lit. A woman walked in and turn on all the lights.
I greeted her, "Good morning, Melissa. Thanks for letting me rehearse my speech your Club". Few minutes later, my name was called upon and I began giving this speech:
http://sharing.theflip.com/session/d67995df0c2388863000bde8730d31f2/video/18827740
I bombed this at the Club. It was early morning and no ones is laughing. But I got a good lesson from this:
(1) Building Audience Rapport
I felt that I jumped in to the speech presentation with too much energy. At 7:00am, energy is low and people are warming up. So, I guess the best way to build rapport is to warm up with the audience, before I go on to a full blown speech.
Audience must be thinking..... "Why is this guy sooo... ENTHUSIASTIC!!!" :)
A mistake I will take note the very next time.
(2) Tell A Story NOT a Canned Speech
I rehearsed this speech so many times, that I could remember at the back of my head every word and where to pace throughout the speech. That's why everyone realized this is a canned speech.
Jeffrey evaluated me and provided me a good feedback. Change your speech a little here and there to regain freshness in your speech. Here are some of his recommendation:
- use "hip touches" instead of "elbow"
- change location from office kitchen to home kitchen
- character Jessica to Rebbecca
I recently listen to Ed Tate's speech and he mentioned about re-"live" the incident. Now I finally realized 2 things:
(i) what he meant when he say re-"live" the incident because that's the only way to regain freshness in the mind of the speaker and audiences.
(ii)what went wrong in my previous 2009 Division Humorous Speech Contest. I recalled now that I wasn't prepared for my Club and Area Contests but I was too prepared for my Division contest... maybe (I'm not 100% sure) that the reason why I was 2nd in the contest.
(3) Think About How To Make It Great
As many speakers do (and myself).... I felt in love with my speech. Some great recommendations to change my script were provided and initially I somewhat listen to critics and constructive feedback but I found it's a little difficult for me to change it cos...... I felt in love with my speech.... and there is a slight reluctance to amend the speech.
But I'll try to make good speech better... by testing and amending.
I wish I have time to make changes to my script so I'll be all ready for the upcoming Division E Humorous Speech Contest 2010 this coming Thursday (October 7th).
Cheers,
Kian
I greeted her, "Good morning, Melissa. Thanks for letting me rehearse my speech your Club". Few minutes later, my name was called upon and I began giving this speech:
http://sharing.theflip.com/session/d67995df0c2388863000bde8730d31f2/video/18827740
I bombed this at the Club. It was early morning and no ones is laughing. But I got a good lesson from this:
(1) Building Audience Rapport
I felt that I jumped in to the speech presentation with too much energy. At 7:00am, energy is low and people are warming up. So, I guess the best way to build rapport is to warm up with the audience, before I go on to a full blown speech.
Audience must be thinking..... "Why is this guy sooo... ENTHUSIASTIC!!!" :)
A mistake I will take note the very next time.
(2) Tell A Story NOT a Canned Speech
I rehearsed this speech so many times, that I could remember at the back of my head every word and where to pace throughout the speech. That's why everyone realized this is a canned speech.
Jeffrey evaluated me and provided me a good feedback. Change your speech a little here and there to regain freshness in your speech. Here are some of his recommendation:
- use "hip touches" instead of "elbow"
- change location from office kitchen to home kitchen
- character Jessica to Rebbecca
I recently listen to Ed Tate's speech and he mentioned about re-"live" the incident. Now I finally realized 2 things:
(i) what he meant when he say re-"live" the incident because that's the only way to regain freshness in the mind of the speaker and audiences.
(ii)what went wrong in my previous 2009 Division Humorous Speech Contest. I recalled now that I wasn't prepared for my Club and Area Contests but I was too prepared for my Division contest... maybe (I'm not 100% sure) that the reason why I was 2nd in the contest.
(3) Think About How To Make It Great
As many speakers do (and myself).... I felt in love with my speech. Some great recommendations to change my script were provided and initially I somewhat listen to critics and constructive feedback but I found it's a little difficult for me to change it cos...... I felt in love with my speech.... and there is a slight reluctance to amend the speech.
But I'll try to make good speech better... by testing and amending.
I wish I have time to make changes to my script so I'll be all ready for the upcoming Division E Humorous Speech Contest 2010 this coming Thursday (October 7th).
Cheers,
Kian
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